Can I just say, parenting teens is HARD.
My teen daughters are fantastic. Seriously. I couldn't ask for better girls. They are trying so hard to do what is right, to excel in school, and to serve those around them. I have no complaints.
But as a parent? Dang. Even with amazing kids my husband and I constantly struggle with knowing what boundaries to set, when to intercede, when to step back. I'm constantly asking myself, do they need a little push, a lot of support, or to be completely left alone? It all felt a lot easier when they were younger, that's for sure!
I am so grateful to have the guidance and promptings of the Holy Ghost and know that my Heavenly Father is walking through this mortally journey with me. Knowing that even though I will make many, many mistakes, through His Atonement the Savior will magnify my efforts. This gives me the ability to keep going without becoming too weighed down with my concerns.
I have found that for me the surest bet is to stay prayerful, and when I'm talking to my girls admit that I don't know everything; that sometimes I really am just taking a stab in the dark. I ask for their patience and respect, and make an effort to respond in kind. I keep my mouth shut more often and let tears and emotions ebb before engaging (oh how this seems to be key - especially with girls!).
The good news is, it's pretty hard to screw up a kid. I know because I made a ton of mistakes with my eldest, and look how great she's turning out to be. Not that I'm responsible for her greatness - that was already there inside her. What I'm saying is that it takes a lot to ruin your kid. :-)