It's such a hard lesson for me to learn.
In my pride, I think I'm so full of good advice. And maybe sometimes I am.
But there is one place where my advice is almost never welcomed in the way I think it should be. That relationship between mother and oldest daughter is tricky sometimes.
But I've learned two important things.
1. When she starts to complain, keep my mouth closed.
2. When you're tempted to offer solutions, instead ask what you can do to help. Then be quiet and let her talk.
So simple, yet often so difficult for me to remember!