Sister Beck: "The powerful feeling that has been coming over me is, “Sisters, fight—fight, sisters.” You have the responsibility in your homes...We cannot sit and act like victims. This is the work of a determined adversary, and we have to take responsibility for defending our homes. We must teach our families everywhere—in family home evenings, in prayer and scripture study, and at mealtimes. We must create opportunities to teach. This will require limiting activities that take us to and fro...We need to be the ones seeking every day to qualify for the Spirit, to recognize the voice of the Spirit, and to follow the voice of the Spirit because other voices will lead us in the wrong ways...This is a faith-based work. The family and the work of women—Latter-day Saint women—is a faith-based work, and we have to call upon our faith in the Lord Jesus Christ and His restored gospel and the principles He taught on the earth. We have to follow Him with all our hearts" (2009 BYU Women's Conference).
Sister Beck gave a wonderful talk at this conference. I have posted multiple quotes from that talk on this blog. Sister Beck is my hero. She is indeed a champion of a family. She helps me feel proud to be a wife and a mother, and just as importantly she helps me feel CAPABLE as a wife and a mother.
We are engaged in a fight against a powerful opposer who makes it his supreme goal to destroy the family. Why pick on the family? Because that is where the war is won or lost. Thus, the Deceiver is busy setting up distractions and stumbling blocks in our quest for happy families. What are they?
1. Today's women believe that mothering is hard and that it is deserving of sympathy. It's not. It's no harder than being a father, or being single, or having a physical handicap. The challenges of each situation are different, but how can you say one is harder than the other?
2. Raising expectations of mothers in order to keep us busy. Today's mothers must chauffeur their children to multiple events, create healthy meals, sew elaborate Halloween costumes, be dressed impeccably in trendy clothing, dream up darling handouts for every lesson they teach, volunteer in each of their children's classes at school, and maintain a spotless, designer-decorated house.
3. Making new versions of modesty acceptable. Sayings like "modest is hottest" and "sexy modesty" which really are oxymorons.
4. Today's mothers must deal with an influx in pornography, that has access to their very homes via the internet and television, that is geared towards all ages and genders.
5. Today's mothers are supposed to balance a full-filling career and family life on 24-hours a day. Even if you don't work outside the home, you are expected to be contributing to the family's income somehow.
Those are just a few of the things I've noticed. These distractions take us away from what is really important. Family time. Gospel study as individuals and families. Temple attendance. Those are the things that rejuvenate us and remind us what really matters.